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What is co-parenting?

Co-parenting is a term used to describe the process of two parents working together to raise their children after they have separated or divorced. Co-parenting can involve a variety of arrangements, such as joint custody, where the children spend equal time with each parent, or sole custody with one parent and visitation rights for the other parent.


Co-parenting aims to provide children with a stable and loving environment, even though their parents are no longer together. Co-parenting can be challenging, but parents must remember that their child's needs come first.


A challenge in co-parenting is parenting time. Parenting time is the amount of time a child spends with each parent after their parents have separated or divorced. In normal circumstances, it's healthy for a child to spend quality time with both parents. However, the best parenting time arrangement for children will depend on a variety of factors, including:

  • The child's age

  • ​​The child's needs and safety

  • The parent's ability to co-parent effectively

  • The parents' work schedules and living arrangements

  • The child's relationship with each parent

  • The child's preferences, if they are old enough to express them

It's recommended to create a parenting plan that articulates all the arrangements between parents and children. A parenting plan will eliminate misunderstandings and make your parenting arrangements consistent.


The core of co-parenting is the relationship between separated parents and between each parent and their children. The more you care about your relationships, the easier co-parenting becomes.


Here are a few general tips:

  • Communicate openly with each other. Communication is vital in any relationship. Separated parents can get into a vicious cycle of criticising, blaming, punishing, and abandoning each other or, even worse, their children, which are all poison for parents and their children. You may need to seek help from a relationship practitioner and learn new habits and techniques to make your relationship healthy.

  • Focus on the needs of your children and yourselves. Sometimes, parents get bogged down in the battle between right and wrong rather than focusing on what they actually need. Frequently, remind yourself of the needs of your child and you, and communicate your needs clearly with your ex, negotiate, and agree.

  • Be flexible, let go of little things and be willing to compromise. You may have different needs and circumstances that may not match well. Pulling and pushing and trying to bully each other will only drain you and your children and can be very destructive for the health and well-being of your children and yourselves. Be flexible by focusing on your high-priority needs. Let go of little things.

  • Be consistent with rules and routines. Varying rules and routines at mum's and dad's places confuse children. It's essential to agree on rules and routines between you and your ex and implement them consistently to provide your child safety, security, and comfort.

Above all, your own mental well-being is crucial in your co-parenting. Having a good mind diet and daily mind practice will equip you to be a great parent, have a sound co-parenting relationship, and start a new healthy relationship with a new partner.


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Author: Nima Sedigh, Founder of Mind Practice




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